You know those lists that rank the top 10 in whatever category you can make think off. Generally, I take it all with a pinch of salt because these lists tend to pander to stereotypes. But a couple of years ago, I found this one (I think it was in a forwarded email) and edited it ever-so-slightly to make it a perfect fit for me and posted it on Facebook for my George. I was surprised and pleased to find a list that seemed to be reflective of me. I have pasted that list of 20 ‘things girls want guys to know’.
- I love when you cuddle with me
- A kiss on the cheek is a definite yes
- I want you to put your arm around me at the movies
- I don’t care if you are the strongest guy in the world
- Size doesn’t always matter so don’t stress
- I don’t always look my best so get over it
- I shouldn’t have to plan everything
- I’m always ready to talk so call/text or talk to me
- I’m not perfect and I never claimed I was
- I love surprises
- The little things you do mean the most
- I like boy stuff too (you know it too!)
- Cursing & fighting doesn’t impress me (in fact the complete opposite)
- Don’t be mean to me to get my attention
- I can tell when you’re not listening so fix up and listen to my pearls of wisdom (let’s face it, I’m always right!)
- When I say I’m cold, that’s your cue to come closer
- Hugs mean more sometimes (or should that be most times?)
- I need your advice sometimes so don’t be afraid to offer it to me
- I will take good care of you if you treat me right
- I will love you more 😀
All 20 items are absolutely applicable to me especially how much I appreciate a hug, a cuddle and a kiss on the cheek. For a relationship to work, I totally believe in items nos 8 and 9. 11 is so true and I keep reminding my dear husband of that fact. George, my hubby, insists that he is not romantic in the slightest. That is a huge untruth because George will swear blind that no 6 doesn’t apply to me. He claims I look perfect all the time which to me qualifies him easily as the most romantic man I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I know that of course it is not true but psychologically, it really doesn’t matter because at the end of the day, I know he sees perfection in me because he looks at me through love-tinted glasses. When he looks at me, he looks at me with such appreciation and I can tell you, it is great for my self-confidence and body image. Since meeting George, I find that when I look in the mirror and all I can see are my flaws, I am able to say to myself it really isn’t that bad and not sink into depression as I used to on rare occasions in my younger days.
No 20 is rather funny because in the early days of our relationship, I would say that to my husband and he would get upset because he thought I was questioning his love for me. As he knows now, that is not the point of that statement. Despite my competitive nature, when it comes to love for me it is the opposite of competition. It is the ultimate team pursuit where the strength in the individuals promotes strength in the team greater than the sum of the individual strengths. So when I say no 20, I mean to say I love you more than you realise. I do not mean that my love for you is greater than your love for me. I mean to say that every day I love you more. And I mean to say that I pray to love you even more every time I say those words. So who says women are complicated? I genuinely believe that if my husband could apply these items to our everyday life, he would make me the happiest wife in the world. Simples!